Before I start I am only posting because people want to know what is going on. I never put out this much information and this is very hard for me to do. I am not asking for help but if you would like to help you can message me on ways to help I have options set up.
Many have asked what has been going on with me and I have been very vague about what is going on. Well now I am going to tell it all. In 2011 I got hurt at my job that I had at that time. The employer refused to give me the work comp number to file a claim and took all the information down in the general area where it was. I had to go through months of physical therapy, tests, scans and so much more. All in the end is that right then the damage was not enough to do anything and that I would have chronic pain for the rest of my life. So I was on light work for a while. Well my job cut me down in hours and then what topped it one night was that she told me because I get state medical and food stamps (which was not a whole lot each month). That I would never get a raise unless I got completely off the county and no help at all. Then she cut me down to one day a week and did everything against the law making me serve rotten food and everything. I could no longer work for them so I picked up my last paycheck and filed paperwork with my state. That didn't go very far. Well I was left with a trek that I never knew that I would be on. After that there was many times I still had to be mom. What did that mean I was crawling around my house just trying to clean and many time laying for hours crying in pain. I couldn't do anything with it. during this time I had three young children and my ex was taking me to court 3-5 times a month. That was taking my family down each time and cost so much money each time that we went. Finally I got it to the point that court ended and my kids father went away. He wasn't really there anyway. We also for my special needs children had to change therapists and was a longer drive and costing us more money. In 2012 my back finally started to calm down with a number of treatments but then found out that the disks in my back were slowly going away. This lead to not only chronic pain but degenerative disk disease. When I heard that my heart sank and knew what was coming because I have seen over the years what it has done to my father. Later that year at my husband job note we are about 2 years into owning our home and other plants in the area began shipping jobs over seas. When he said that his job had opened a plant overseas my heart sank because I had seen it happen to others. We kept going along. That year my ex signed his rights off to my children so that my husband could adopt them. Right after we got the papers from my ex that my husband came home and said that it was official that his plant was closing and some jobs were going over seas and some were going 2 hours away. He had the option to go down there for work but the roads were always bad that way so driving 2 hours one was was not a option. We talked about what we could do and just kept moving forward. This was a great job and my husband had just gotten to the 10 year mark with this job. He did stay to the very end with the job and right before Christmas he no longer had a job. During this time because we had not gone forward with the adoption that my ex brought us back to court again and again. Taking more money and time from our family. We finally made it clear about the job ending and would do it as soon as my husband got a new job. After Christmas break I was going crazy and sent the kids back to school at this time they were going to a different town for school because they were not getting help in the local school. During this time of going almost a month without a job that it was very hard and had to rob Peter to pay Paul kind of situation. My husband got very sad during this time and took a lot on my part to get him back up and wanting to get going. We set out getting job applications in and well he had a call not a great job but at that point any job was better then anything. Bills were mounting and there was no way to pay. I was still unable to really work because of my back. The pain was also beginning to take a silent toll on my heart. I had so many test and appointments. Right after the husband started at the new job it was going great he was working 60 hours a week and we were getting out of debt and things were beginning to look up. I then got the diagnosis of Thyroid nodules and had to do more testing. They thought it might be cancer and was watching me. Then I also got the diagnosis that I have to be watched for cervical cancer. This lead to more invasive testing and long hours. Finally they gave me a diagnosis that I didn't have cancer but that every three months that I would need to be watched. We were back to normal and was still taking my children to therapy and life was good for a short time. After my husband was done with the temp agency and he got hired on normally then the bad happened. Child support wrongly reported and got our refunds taken away, messed up my husband credit and so much more. This was a big blow to us. Then began that I had more Dr. visits and farther away. This took a toll on the money we had. Then my husbands hours were cut down to barely 40 hours and we couldn't guarantee. The Dr.'s still wanted me to see them, still had to take my children to therapy and we still had to fix our house. Got back to robbing Peter to pay Paul which was not fun and only got worse. 2013 during Christmas got really bad because he wasn't even making 40 hours a week and had to take vacation and even unpaid time off because there was no work. This happened a number of times throughout the time he has been working there. I had tried to do things to bring money into the home because I was so limited on what I could do because of my health and my children's issues. Finally in 2014 there was something that happened at my kids school that my daughter got threatened to be killed by another student. When the school couldn't ensure my daughter's safety while she was there and dealing with hours meetings after school at least once if not twice a week took too much of a toll on my body. On Halloween 2014 we went out but it was a short night because I didn't feel good and wanted to go home. That night my head was hurting so bad and my heart was hurting I went in. When I got there my heart rate was 153/132 it was scary. The er Dr. chalked it up to my chronic pain and sent me home with pain medications. The days to follow I got very worse and finally got in to see my regular Dr. I was told I was hypertensive and when I went in they said that I was lucky that I didn't have a stroke. I was put on medication and had to watch my heart. After that I couldn't take the stress with the school and decided that homeschooling would be the best option for everyone. We finally got my treatment levels at a good spot and then my main Dr. had to have surgery and has yet to cone back. It has not been easy because now I have to bring new Dr.s up to speed on everything and is hard when you only have a little bit of time on top of getting medication updated and so much more. My care has gone down hill so bad. It has been just one thing after another. Basically to this point my care has gone down hill so bad that I might have to drive farther to get to Dr.s that might be able to help. This all cost money which right now with it all building we have no money to pay bills. We have tried to fix the leaking roof ourselves and to date nothing has worked. It has been so hard to get anything done. We applied for help and we make a couple hundred too much. Not only that now my only vehicle that would make it far enough that I need over $500 worth of work. I have tried selling stuff off we own and now even though against Dr.s wishes I have to go and get a job. Praying that I don't have a episode with my heart or my back. It hurts so bad to talk about this and mostly only share with very close friends. Many of my and husband family don't know what is going on. My health has gotten a lot worse but now my husband might have to have shoulder surgery due to getting hurt at work the other day. He will only get 1/3 of his pay which means there will basically be no income coming into the home. I have tried other options to get ssdi and get help but no one wants to help until it is too late. With my special needs children security is very important and they are even having anxiety issues that is making life harder. We have cut down everything that we can and selling off and doing everything we can. Some family has been nice to help us out but that can only go so far. Talking helps and right now I am working on building my affiliate marketing but that pay is always a month behind. I am grateful for everyone that has already ordered and hoping to get more shares and helping more to get great gifts for the holidays. I am just trying to make it through birthdays and holidays with a smile but even the other day when I went food shopping I started crying on the way home with now that we are to the point of picking and choosing what bills we pay and don't pay. Hoping that we get some kind of help to get the roof and water damage that started this year and hoping my van gets fixed so that I can even get to a job. It has been very stressful lately and I spend many night crying. It has also caused a lot of stress between everyone in the family. I am praying that this all will soon be over and we can get back on track but even this holiday season that we will not be able to even get presents let alone if I can't get my van fixed to even get to family events or to my job.
Many want to know how they can help us during this hard time. There are some options I have below
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https://www.facebook.com/groups/1802327869981436/
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also if you just want to help like I said every dollar counts to helping and through paypal you can send payments as a friend and there is no fees charges my paypal email is
annfries85@gmail.com
Otherwise if you don't want to do any of those option there is also mailing which is below
Fries Family
PO Box 740
Gaylord, MN 55334
Thank you all and if you have any questions or want to keep yup with what is going on I am always available to chat on Facebook or you can email me at annfries85@gmail.com
Praying that everything will work out and that God is good all the time. He has shown us many times even during hard times that there is still good in the world and he has always helped us just at the right time.
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